How Codependent Love Addicts Can Make A Change

By Shawn Hunter


You will run into a lot of problems should you have certain addiction problems relating to love. Codependent love addicts have a hard time on a daily basis because there are many classic characteristics that will set them back. Some people go through their whole life coping in this way. However, it will definitely improve the quality of life by seeking professional help.

Of course, you first have recognize that you have a problem. A lot of people don't even realize this. Many folk are in denial. This often comes back to what you have gone through as a child and various circumstances that you have been through. Now is the time that you are paying the price.

People who are love addicts will have a low self-esteem. They will struggle with certain areas in life, such as with the fear of intimacy as well as the fear of rejection. Most of these people have been neglected and abandoned in the past and this will play on their mind. They will be in relationships that are unhealthy, stressing whether their partner is going to leave.

It is common to see someone who wants to control another person. Of course, it could work the other way around where someone could have control over them. This would make them comfortable with a sense of responsibility. Although, resentment will always come into the picture. A lot of the time, they will blame others because of the fact that there were no boundaries in the first place.

People who suffer from this enjoy being taken care of. It is not a reality, but this also goes back to childhood where there may have been some form of rejection or abandonment. One does not feel that they are adequate and there is always something that is missing in their lives. They will have difficulty with intimate relationships. A relationship, is therefore not healthy.

Someone who is a love addict as well will try and blend in, but that fear will always be there. They will be afraid of the intimacy, but will also fear abandonment. Below they will be struggling, but this does not show on the outside. They appear to be just like anyone else and able to function like any other human being. This is more like an obsessive compulsive sort of behaviour.

A love addict will go though a stage or withdrawal should they not be in a relationship. However, this is not healthy since they battle to connect or bond with anyone. They were not able to do this as a child either and this has not since changed in anyway. They were neglected during this time and this is where the fear creeps in. It adds to the low self-esteem that they carry around with them.

Of course, a love addict will want to connect with someone, but this is only the fantasy. They are often lonely without someone to feel that they are protected. When they are in a relationship, they will treat the other partner as a higher power with a great respect. This becomes unrealistic because they often fantasize about them and are angered when their dreams don't come true.




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